13 August, 2009

Just To Clarify

I am well aware that there are millions of amazing mothers out there! I personally know a TON of women that are fantastic mothers and are my shining example and what I strive to be like every day. My bestest truck pull friend [you know who you are!] is the most dedicated, loving, caring mother on the planet; she's amazing. There are 'real moms' out there that totally deserve the Mom title. [There are stepmoms out there that deserve it, too!]

When I talk about 'real mom', I am only talking about the one I have to deal with in my life. Never in a million years would I go so far as to assume all 'real moms' are not-so-great as my daughter's. I know my situation is a difficult one and I fully understand that there are some 'real moms' and 'stepmoms' out there who get along extravagantly and really like each other. I can only WISH and HOPE that some day, it will be that easy for me. But right now, it's not.

Everything I say is either based from my own personal opinion, or pure fact, from happenings in my own life. PLEASE don't think that I assume all situations are the same as mine, and that all the 'real moms' out there are not great mothers, because I know better.

I write about my situation to not only vent my frustration [it is my blog], but also to help other stepmoms know that they are not alone. I want other amazing stepmoms to know that they have someone they can come to or talk to or whatever. I don't write to get sympathy; I don't write for any attention. I do it because I know I am not the only one dealing with what I deal with, and I want others to know that they are not alone either.

I don't want anyone to take this personally, or think that I am trying to be mean, because I am not. I just want you all to know that I know almost all mothers out there are great! I just so happened to end up having to deal with one that's not, for at least the next 10 years.

10 comments:

  1. Honey write what you feel. When you have to start editing to please everyone then you basically have to stop writing. Some will be offended,some blessed, some will go. I know just how she feels.

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  2. I think you were talking about me....? Thanks Kendahl. Your the best!! (I dont know of any other truck pull moms that you are good friends with) oh yeah I have advise.. Punks mom might dress like a slut but that doesnt mean its in style. Little girls love love love being in style. I would use manakins or kid stars on TV for that example when you go shopping. Most TV show portray their child stars as being clean cut. Use it to your advantage.. You never know she may choose whats in style over her moms taste. I would really push layers of clothing, its super modest and way cute. I wouldnt give up. You are doing a great job. Sorry it is frusterating at times, one day I promise it will pay off. Keep your head up. oh yeah is Corey still going to run in the state fair. We are comming down to watch all that pull and I am dying to see your truck in action! Talk to ya soon

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  3. Love ya Kendahl. I'm sad I couldn't go to lunch with you guys today.

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  4. I never assumed that you were making generalizations.

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  5. Hi: I am a real mom who lately does not feel so great. I have no step children. Being a Mother is the hardest thing a person can do, but the most rewarding as well. I will say a prayer that God makes each day easier for you. Blessings to you. Martha

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  6. I wish we didn't feel we have to self-edit all the time in order to be politically correct but you're right, the pressure is there to do so.

    I certainly took your experience to be just that: "your" experience.

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  7. It makes me sad that you had to explain all of that. Some people are crazy. I can tell just by reading a few posts that you love being a step mom. I think that is just awesome! The most important thing we can give our kids is love. Love from whoever can share it : )

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  8. I understand why you felt you had to clarify...and I'm sorry if you got some not nice comments that made you feel like you had to. You have a great blog here and your thoughts are just that YOUR thoughts. I love the hear them and I am glad that I myself don't have issues with taking EVERYTHING so personal. Thanks for all you say and do!

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